As
I bid Adieu to my twenties this Monday, March 14, I look back at the third decade
of my life or as I would love to call it - #TheWannabeTwenties, I see an array of transitions,
transformations, reformations and many mistakes. In a nutshell, in our twenties,
we are mostly wrong, especially because we think we are so right.
I
wish I could have given some time to think wisely at times in order to nurture my twenty year old self. Not that it
matters anymore, but if you happen to be reading this and you are in your
twenties, perhaps one can link. And if you are in your thirties, feel free to
laugh with or at me or both.
- Do not run after the riches of the World in your twenties. It will ultimately get you to focus on career that
you probably do not care about. This is not that meaningful at all and will reduce your zeal and finally drain your soul. Rather, focus on working with people that inspire you,
doing things that give you energy, solving problems that matter. And if
you happen to be passionate about engineering or projects, then you will
make some money too.
- Twenties is the
time when you are most fertility and have lot of energy. Do not waste them chasing
other's dreams. Besides, the first ten years of your career will direct the
rest of it. Take your time in choosing. Try and learn as much as you can.
- Quit your job if
you are not happy. Trust me no one ever looked back and said I wish I
stayed in this job I hated and caused me self-doubt. You will find another
job, I promise (I actually did quit and found my “Calling”). You are
probably in this job anyways out of fear. This brings me to my next
advice.
- If you are vulnerable, so be it. I must add, Vulnerability is
the birthplace of courage. I spent a big chunk of my twenties, pretending
that I knew it all, that I was doing amazing and suffering in silence. As
I began opening up in the latter part of the twenties, I have grown tremendously, and was able to connect really deeply
with my work and the people who came along in my life (though few betrayed).
- Yes, soul mates do not exist. I spent a big
part of my twenties looking for my soul mate only to find out soul mates
are as made up as UFO’s is. This belief lead to numerous disappointments I
could have spared myself from. Focusing on meeting people you share
interests with and connections, seasoning that with timing are likely to
land you a decent relationship. But seriously, do not run after it. Some People
made it clear to me that love is just a hormonal imbalance which sometimes
results in marriage but it soon vanishes when you face the realities of
life and your shown the door with humiliation, false accusations and a
bunch of curious moronic people all around.
- Be ready to face
betrayal. In front of your eyes you will find your world turning upside
down and you can’t do a thing. All the vows which were made will be
forgotten or I must add, used against you by manipulating the facts in order to make it look like everything is your mistake. You will be put up against lot of lies and false stories and it will sound so convincing that people will doubt you. Let me tell you that at this
juncture, you need to really clear your mind and stand by what is RIGHT.
- As a
young twenty something who wants to get to the bottom of things fast, I
ended up on the receiving end. My suggestion is, avoid fighting over sms, whatsaap or email. Difficult conversations are better handled
in person. Things are easily misconstrued over the network. Just pick up that
phone and call.
- What I really understood in my twenties is that happiness is a marketing myth, so don't
subscribe to it. Life is both
pleasure and suffering, so choose what you want to suffer for and embrace
the hardships that come along. If you marry then really
Money Matters Boss, if you sometimes miss out on providing the luxuries
due to crunch, problems arise. It gets multiplied when in a long distance
and finally people tend to move towards the greener pastures when their
land becomes barren.
- Whenever you get time, follow
your passion. I got back to writing again, planning to pack my back packs
and head straight for the mountains, be with the nature, visit new places,
meet new people-make good friends, explore the unending creativity of
nature away from the “ subdued Robotic life” which has made all of us into
an “Obnoxious Weed.”
Even though I
cannot deny the fact that THE Past has shaped my future but my question is why
talk about my Past?? Why not talk about my Present?? We are so hung up with the
past.
I sometimes question myself; isn’t it all about today and how I live now.
We love to FEED OVER THE LEFTOVERS, over and over again like the old melodies not
realizing that this moment is getting over.
At least I
feel special as I have the power to choose. I actually take pride in my innocence and craziness and
I am deeply protective about the child inside me.What life
taught me is that, we do not learn from good times but it’s actually the bad
times which teach us the most.
Whatever
happens in your twenties just remember that you are enough and you were born for a reason. Try to find your "CALLING" and make It BIG!! My story is
not over but in the process of being narrated and I always think that I am in a
direction of making it sustainable.
LIFE NEVER STOPS…THE
JOURNEY CONTINUES…THE SHOW MUST GO ON…..
CHEERS!!!
