There goes.... Number "THIRTY THREE"

Gosh! Thirty three…... years are just passing by. Time flies and getting a bit older it seems…

Thirty three…. It can’t be described as some extravagant or pivotal birthday. You won’t find glittery or charismatic celebrations displaying those numbers in bold, shiny letters. My EMI payment isn’t going to decrease, and I’m not suddenly gaining access to nightlife locations with a perfect family life, but for some reason, it feels like a metamorphosis which leads to a new chapter in my life. Things have been beautiful and at times really jerky as I meander through the different phases of life. Life has showed me both ups and downs and at times horrible times but I have managed to sail through the rough tides. From popularity of school and college life to character assassinations by trusted folks to professional solidarity to finding the right person (Finally, Sigh…) to holding Gublet (My new born baby)for the first time in my arms, have observed and experienced closely and minutely all the emotions that has been thrown at me at.

There are certain experiences which I think, I have learnt down the line

1. Trust your instincts, it really helps.

2. Things will always happen when it’s bad timing, so never cry over spilt milk and continue your journey.

3. You can still achieve your goals if you act on time.

4. Judging people by the decisions they make won’t help your cause as you haven’t lived their life. Everyone has their on way to lead life.

5. Be kind to everyone. You never know where or when they will show up in your life again.

6. Realize and appreciate when you are part of something special. Nothing will last forever. Just live the moment and appreciate it.

7. Everything can change in an instant. Things or relations can change without you ever thinking of it in the wildest of dreams.

8. Starting something new and recovering once you are cornered is the only choice you really have.

9. It is very important to realize that there isn’t always something better out there. A small mistake and you can really screw up what you already have.

10. Follow people who encourage your dreams and goals. Find a mentor and gain positivity from every nook and corner

11. It is really important to tell people today how you feel about them. They might not be here tomorrow.

12. Always engage yourself in things that make you happy, even if they don’t make sense.

13. Always be kind to yourself. You are your own worst enemy.

14. Talk to self and give positive vibes and despise those negative thoughts.

15. Keep changing your goals as you grow.

16. Try to set goals that scare you. You will really be surprised at what you can achieve.

17. Don’t worry about material gains. Things can be replaced. People cannot.

18. When you actually do nothing, Its OK, you can actually reflect and introspect.

19. Introspection is absolutely necessary.

20. It is never too late to tell someone “thank you.”

21. You can’t fix many things that fall your way. Death is not one of them.

22. Positive thinking can go a long way.

23. Find people who will stand in your corner and fight for you. They are essential to your well-being.

24. You actually don’t look fat in photographs. Ten years from now, you’ll think you looked great.

25. Be a good listener when they open up to you. It’s all because of some reason.

26. At times when you feel lost, look to the past to remember who you are.

27. Fill your space with photographs of happy times. Surroundings can make a difference.

28. Travel, explore, learn and experience the World, there is nothing like it.

29. Take risks. It’s the only way to answer the “what if’s”.

30. Remember that your past doesn’t predict your future.

31. Make sure the people in your life know that you love them.

32. Appreciate just how far you’ve come and look to achieve further. IN THE MSP OF LIFE…THERE IS NO LEAD OR LAG BUT YOU HAVE TO AVERT THE CRITICAL PATH.

33. Truly enjoy this moment. You are not guaranteed another one.

Anyways, enough of lectures Life is short, live it to the fullest….

The only grievance I have as of now……..

“I Am getting Old!!”

But, the Child in Me still resides……

Well Into a New Decade....

I turned thirty one today.

Thirty plus One.

Who cares?????

However, I am starting to realize that thirty one has its place.

My twenties were for picking things up, putting things down AND RUNNING AFTER THE RICHES as a result of the new found Financial Independence. It was a decade of entering  professional life, risky behaviour, confident assertions, job shifts and five year plans which never worked and a failed marriage. Many moments to cherish, lots of mistakes and an incident which completely made me what I am today.

Being just a year in, I can already tell that the thirties will be the decade of negotiation, the decade of surrender, the decade of important decisions in life which would either make or break my career and a hope to find Someone Special who will take me away from the pain of the Past.

Thirties, it’s no longer a question of whether my chalked out plans will take shape or not but whether I actually want the things I penned into my five-year plans, and if so, what I’m willing to give up to get them.

As a divorced, issue less thirty something man, the thirties can be a treacherous and beautiful. Whether I am used to being lonely or whether someone would come into my life and sway me away to the greener pastures. The question is yet to be answered-Who have I grown into and is this who I want to continue to be?

The thirties is the decade of negotiating my most precious resource, my attention and my courage. It is the age of deciding what to ignore and what to dive into. Whether my vulnerability will become my courage or be my weakness. Questions like these are no longer a Null Hypothesis but will have to be directly answered by the very minutes of how I spend my life.

Do I aim for a bigger career — or just a bigger pay check???

If I seek a soul mate once again, what to look for??? And most importantly how to start everything once again-the expectations which I need to meet.

My priorities changed after divorce but again things need to be re-prioritized. A mountain to climb but knowing myself, it won’t be difficult.

Do I identify as a writer who works as a piping & hydraulics specialist or just a piping & hydraulics specialist who also writes? Does it matter?

The way thirty delightfully whizzed past me, I can tell that my entire thirties could end up as a breathless blur; like the gap of white space between a before and after photo between the twenties and forties: grow my career, write-write-write, get married, buy a house, have kids, invest, money into retirement, consider selling house, and it goes on and on. Aaaahhhhhhhh......!!!

I’ve fully claimed my space among the joys of adulthood, but I also realize that being a full-fledged grownup requires the high price of my attention. The danger of the thirties is that I doze off as I get lulled into a rhythm of earning, expanding and acquiring. Sleepwalking through my thirties will give me that same bitter cocktail of chagrin and remorse I once felt when I found out that someone had an affair and moved out of my life making an absolute idiot out of me in the society?

Still early in my thirties, I feel loyal to the twenty something lively, smiling, determined  and loving twenty year old me while also acknowledging the deliciousness of slowing down .

This next decade will be about which parts of me get refined and which get sacrificed among the embers.

My most sincere wish for my thirties is that, however I choose to spend my attention, I stay conscious of my choices and that I live my days;  maybe not every day, but most day.

I just want to EMBRACE everything that COMES IN THE OFFING “ With ARMS WIDE OPEN!!!.”

Cheers !!!

The THIRD decade...

As I bid Adieu to my twenties this Monday, March 14, I look back at the third decade of my life or as I would love to call it - #TheWannabeTwenties, I see an array of transitions, transformations, reformations and many mistakes. In a nutshell, in our twenties, we are mostly wrong, especially because we think we are so right.

I wish I could have given some time to think wisely at times in order to nurture my twenty year old self. Not that it matters anymore, but if you happen to be reading this and you are in your twenties, perhaps one can link. And if you are in your thirties, feel free to laugh with or at me or both.

1. Do not run after the riches of the World in your twenties. It will ultimately get you to focus on career that you probably do not care about. This is not that meaningful at all and will reduce your zeal and finally drain your soul. Rather, focus on working with people that inspire you, doing things that give you energy, solving problems that matter. And if you happen to be passionate about engineering or projects, then you will make some money too.
2. Twenties is the time when you are most fertility and have lot of energy. Do not waste them chasing other's dreams. Besides, the first ten years of your career will direct the rest of it. Take your time in choosing. Try and learn as much as you can.
3. Quit your job if you are not happy. Trust me no one ever looked back and said I wish I stayed in this job I hated and caused me self-doubt. You will find another job, I promise (I actually did quit and found my “Calling”). You are probably in this job anyways out of fear. This brings me to my next advice.
4.  If you are vulnerable, so be it. I must add, Vulnerability is the birthplace of courage. I spent a big chunk of my twenties, pretending that I knew it all, that I was doing amazing and suffering in silence. As I began opening up in the latter part of the twenties, I have grown tremendously, and was able to connect really deeply with my work and the people who came along in my life (though few betrayed).
5.  Yes, soul mates do not exist. I spent a big part of my twenties looking for my soul mate only to find out soul mates are as made up as UFO’s is. This belief lead to numerous disappointments I could have spared myself from. Focusing on meeting people you share interests with and connections, seasoning that with timing are likely to land you a decent relationship. But seriously, do not run after it. Some People made it clear to me that love is just a hormonal imbalance which sometimes results in marriage but it soon vanishes when you face the realities of life and your shown the door with humiliation, false accusations and a bunch of curious moronic people all around. 
6. Be ready to face betrayal. In front of your eyes you will find your world turning upside down and you can’t do a thing. All the vows which were made will be forgotten or I must add, used against you by manipulating the facts in order to make it look like everything is your mistake. You will be put up against lot of lies and false stories and it will sound so convincing that people will doubt you. Let me tell you that at this juncture, you need to really clear your mind and stand by what is RIGHT. 
7.  As a young twenty something who wants to get to the bottom of things fast, I ended up on the receiving end. My suggestion is, avoid fighting over sms, whatsaap or email. Difficult conversations are better handled in person. Things are easily misconstrued over the network. Just pick up that phone and call. 
8.  What I really understood in my twenties is that happiness is a marketing myth, so don't subscribe to it. Life is both pleasure and suffering, so choose what you want to suffer for and embrace the hardships that come along. If you marry then really Money Matters Boss, if you sometimes miss out on providing the luxuries due to crunch, problems arise. It gets multiplied when in a long distance and finally people tend to move towards the greener pastures when their land becomes barren.
9. Whenever you get time, follow your passion. I got back to writing again, planning to pack my back packs and head straight for the mountains, be with the nature, visit new places, meet new people-make good friends, explore the unending creativity of nature away from the “ subdued Robotic life” which has made all of us into an “Obnoxious Weed.”

Even though I cannot deny the fact that THE Past has shaped my future but my question is why talk about my Past?? Why not talk about my Present?? We are so hung up with the past. 

I sometimes question myself; isn’t it all about today and how I live now. We love to FEED OVER THE LEFTOVERS, over and over again like the old melodies not realizing that this moment is getting over.

At least I feel special as I have the power to choose. I actually take pride in my innocence and craziness and I am deeply protective about the child inside me.What life taught me is that, we do not learn from good times but it’s actually the bad times which teach us the most.

Whatever happens in your twenties just remember that you are enough and you were born for a reason. Try to find your "CALLING" and make It BIG!! My story is not over but in the process of being narrated and I always think that I am in a direction of making it sustainable.

LIFE NEVER STOPS…THE JOURNEY CONTINUES…THE SHOW MUST GO ON…..

CHEERS!!!

Life Cycle of an Engineer...

What Engineering taught me? 

1. I learnt to use 3 High End Software:
* Microsoft Word
* Microsoft Excel

* Microsoft PowerPoint

2. I used 3 great short cuts:-
* Ctrl+C
* Ctrl+V
* Ctrl+X

3. I learnt to say three very imp words for life:-
* Yes sir
* Ok sir
* I'll Just Do That sir.

4.Flocking areas:-

*Boom area- Chai, sutta points & Canteens.

*College front & back gates.

*Foto-copy centres before exams.

5. When I really wanted to study, I learnt to: -
* Wake Up late
* Sleep early
* Continue to continue to watch series/play games

6. I learnt to: -
* Face Monday
* Fight For 5 Days
* Wait For the Weekend

7. Love:-

*Facebook, the Bible.

*After college the romantic meet up.
*Looking for new chicks from 1st year like HAWKS.

8.

I learnt to give reasons to family frnds and relatives for not making

* Phone Calls
* Messages
* Mails

8. I learnt to celebrate these things far away from loved ones:-
* Birthday
* Diwali
* Holi

9. In last 4 years, People say:-
* You made friends for a lifetime..
* You lived a life which was out of the world...
* You Enjoyed...

10. But when I compare me with my self...
* I just Sustained...
* I just Tolerated...
* I just Survived...

Free India

Good Morning free INDIA... at least by the looks of d tri-colours being sold on various places.. The question are we really free??? Are we free from corruption?? 65 years gone, while people might get dazzled by the near perfect heavenly life of the big cities..somewhere down the line..the other parts of the country is cared for.. the question is we are being RULED n not governed though the constitution so designed that there are millions of loopholes and INDIANS are somewhat dishonest than most people from  developed nations...So time for us to stand up against dishonest means..it may sound easy but really INDIA IS A COUNTRY FILLED WITH DISHONEST PEOPLE n its a truth however harsh it might sound..Frenz lets take an oath from today to be honest!!!
JAI HIND

Tears in the Wind...

I dissolve my heart in those little tear drops

And scatter them in the wind, hoping...

That when you breathe, they would become one

With your heart, that which I long to be mine..

I will not search for the lost drops.. for they

Along with all the unspoken words,


Would find their place...

In the unwritten story of my love…

Pranab da, Kalam Sir or Inflation and Petro hike..

Once again proved Indians are fools.... Entire nation is fighting over d next president...
Can I ask what effective role does a Presi hv in Indian constituiion????
Nice way to divert fools from the topic of Inflation..Fuel price hike..
Everyone has forgotten that our economy is crying and still we are more interested in moronic drama created by Mamata Banerjee. Why cant we seriously look into the economic crisis in the country....???
Someone rightly had said.. India is a country full of sheeps!!!
#wakeup Indians.